I once found myself in the exact same situation. After weighing the various options I bought her a very nice double which she seemed to enjoy looking at and I thought the crisis had been avoided, Then one night, while admiring her gun, she asked why I had bought a 16ga, which she knew was obsoleted by the 3" 20ga. Realizing she was beyond redemption, I slept with her sister and have never missed her. Further, the children,avid shot gunners all, have removed her pictures from the house and are suing to have her barred from burial in the family plot. Some things are just more than can be tolerated.