I wish I could see clearly what to do in those situations, miller. I've visited Civil War battlefields and monuments throughout the South. I like to read inscriptions to measure the care communities have taken with their history. The statues, sabres and horses are a welcome sight to me. Then I remember they must affect others differently for good reasons.
This year they removed a beautiful statue of Lord Edward Cornwallis in our provincial capital of Halifax. He was a soldier who founded Halifax and massacred native people fighting on the side of the French while both empires struggled for control of the continent. I felt the statue should remain with an inscription describing accurately both sides of history.
I feel the same about those in the South.