Canada won hockey games with heart until Russia showed us how to skate. Strength and honour by itself no longer cuts it. Same with kumbaya. Canada set out on a clearly thought-out course that communities can't live together in a democracy unless they reach above self interest in search for a shared idea of the common good. Countries linked ONLY by compromise over self interest can't make it either. There should be an accepted Spirit, a balance of personal freedom with the public good. (Apologies for going heavy but, like you say, I feel better now.)