You're not out of bounds at all to ask her. Your question was properly phrased ..."cost to have the stock work done including the cost of the wood similar to the stock on my Parker as pictured?"...to elicit an honest, objective opinion. I don't see where you asked for any opinions on the tastefulness of the Parker, something that wouldn't factor one iota into the cost of the job.
While you're deserving of an apology or two, you surely don't owe one.
The wood could be had for $3-400. I doubt the total labor involved... turning, fitting, finishing and checkering...could be accomplished in less than 20 hours, whether at the hands of a novice, an advanced hobbyist, a pro or a celebrity. That could range anywhere from $30-100/hour.
I wouldn't get excited about the prospect of getting it done for <$2,000. That's why pretty wood is such a bargain; doubling the cost of the blank might add only 20% to the cost of the project.
