The hinge wears almost entirely as a function of movement of the bearing surfaces during opening and closing of the action. Violent TV-style opening and closing is undoubtedly rough on the hinge. The manner in which the opening lever is moved to closure (pushed, snapped, or eased) has nothing to do with wear at the hinge because the action is closed.
Similarly, violent closure of the action likely has no effect on bolting wear as it is still accomplished by spring tension. Letting the lever go under it's own spring tension hardly constitutes abuse. The tension of the spring provides for consistent mating of bolting surfaces. This tension ensures no further motion on firing.
I open and close actions (movement at hinge) gently. I do not hinder or assist the lever on closing.
Sam