If the receiving FFL does not know the rules of his business, then he ought to be out of business. If he chooses to not follow the rules of his business, then he ought to be out of business. Either way, I would not deal with him.
Hassle for dealer for very little profit on handlng the transaction.
The absolute cheapest FFL that I can find around here charges $85 for a "simple" transfer. Not bad for 15 minutes of paperwork, and certainly profitable. When I have had to return a gun that I choose not to keep, I pay again for his time to pack and ship, since I have never taken possession of the gun. Either way, my FFL makes money on virtually every transaction. He follows the rules and regs and doesn't screw with me or the shippers. It's not that tough.